Comments on: Guys, Shame, and Attracting Women

By: JJ

JJ — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 03:21:06 +0000

Hey all you guys keep away from tp! Because all these techniques work! I am 40 in an open marriage and I have over three very, very serious girlfriends! So if you don’t want women all over you do not use any of this information guys! You have been warned! :}

By: Daxter

Daxter — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 05:45:18 +0000

It would be nice to find a nice stable woman too. One that will love you and at the same time, she will be aware of how much you want her, but not take advantage of that; Someone you don’t have to play all these silly games with to make them jealous just to keep them interested. Isn’t there a way of keeping balance in a relationship without making it too boring at the same time? In all my past relationships, I’m either the one chasing after the girl, or the girl is chasing after me. There was rarely any balance. I really don’t agree on the idea of making your partner jealous while taking a break. Then she’s gonna feel vulnerable just like you felt before, same problem, different victim. Is there a way both partners can feel happy and satisfied and secure without being bored?

By: Admin

Admin — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 17:30:35 +0000

OMG, Anonymous, you’ve just beautifully expressed a frustration I’m sure half the guys reading this have felt, and I’ve felt myself.

I really think practicing Trigger Banter will help, because it teaches you to use every interaction to make yourself better. You take your failures — like times you’re describing here — figure out which triggers you can use in the situation, and then brainstorm responses, as outlined in Flirting Deconstructed.

Then, next time, you have a great plan for the situation. It really doesn’t take long to completely transform your interactions with women using this method.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 06:53:54 +0000

can someone slap some sense into me? all this advice is golden and i feel PUMPED after reading it like “yea thats no big deal at all. sweet!”

then i wake up the next day and i’m back to my normal “quiet, funny, let the girl make the first move so you don’t look like a fool.” attitude.

WTF? whats wrong with me?

By: Liam

Liam — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 10:13:47 +0000

This is great. Thanks tp” because of your advice I got a girlfriend… I owe you one

By: Joe Ferrari

Joe Ferrari — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 21:32:11 +0000

I think some of this also depends on how attractive of a guy you are and if your girl constantly sees other girsl look at you and/or flirt with you. If your very good looking, she may be just wanting to see if you really want her. My female boss told me she did this with her current boyfriend just to see what he would do, after 4 months she gave in and took him back after he moderatly kept going for her.

By: artrogish

artrogish — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 07:33:11 +0000

“seems she likes the bad boy I used to be”. Bad boys are exciting and display confidence. Research shows that excitment and risk are part of attraction. Bordom never is. Relationships fail when needs are not met and one human need is the stimulation provided by new experiances. Now that you are behaving in an exciting , not boring , way, she is attracted to you again. Feelings of jelousy are also a part of attraction. Women find confidence hightly attractive. Your response to her leaving was not to chase her, but to confidently go out on your own and by doing so prove your social value to her; social value meaning other women find you to be attractive. You are not being needy. Because you are not being a problem to be handled by her, she can relax and enjoy the excitment you are creating.

By: A Kelly

A Kelly — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 01:10:58 +0000

Was Married 20 years ,seems she likes the bad boy I used to be ,but left to go find her self but expects me to wait while she does ,I go out now and boy she after me more than ever wanting me ,afraid to loose me ,how is that or why is that

By: Nicholas Wiggs

Nicholas Wiggs — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:46:23 +0000

I really appreciate this encouraging and truthful message T.P.
It speaks to my heart and my mind at the same time. it is true, I felt all those things..
SO I am “coming out” with women.. as a man who in fact IS interested in them, and sex, and I expect to see the fruits soon.

much love,

Nick

By: Anthony

Anthony — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 22:38:05 +0000

I must admit that I had no idea how to approach a women except the foolish advice my forever single friends gave. By the way only further confused me. So I recently began to take the wisdom of my college professor, “if you want to be good at anything study it first then practice.”

Today I am an Alpha Male (not to be confused with the fraternity). I’ve learned so many skills that made the world of difference in my life. I actually have a 90% chance each time I approach a women now. Unlike the garbage my friends tried to give me.

I invite each of you to invest some time by studying the skills laid out in the book. The next couple of weeks doesn’t have to look like the past few weeks. I’ve gotta go I have a date. Anthony