How To CREATE
Your Perfect Lover

Yes, you read that right. There are (very new) methods you can start using today that will help you take a woman you’ve just started hitting it off with and “create” a lover out of her.

Keep reading. I can’t share everything today, but you’ll get a good idea how things work by the time you finish reading this post.

And, please, . . . feel free to leave comments after reading this post. Or ask questions. Anything respectful is welcome, and your comments and questions will help shape future posts on this topic.

Have You Ever . . .

Have you ever been talking with a girl, thinking things were going so well you were going to get lucky the very first day or night, . . . then you started talking about meeting her friends, and things started cooling off right away?

Have you ever thought you were getting into an “open” relationship only to have the girl get jealous the very next day when you just *looked* at another girl?

Have you ever felt like you and the girl were into each other, but the longer the conversation went on, the more it got awkward, because neither of you knew how to take things to the next level?

There’s a reason things

go wrong like this.

It has to do with the psychology at play when you meet a new person and start talking with them.

When you first meet a person, you each *CREATE* custom personalities for interacting with each other.

This is a *GOLDEN* opportunity.

Here’s a very broad overview of the psychology involved (kind of a “sketch”), and how to use the psychology to improve the rate at which you turn good conversations into some good loving.

I’ll just present it in bullet-list form:

• Many things work together to motivate a woman to take the paths she takes through a conversation. (her desires, the judgments of her friends, etc).
• One of the most powerful shapers of conversational flow is the set of values and self-descriptions the two parties are “on-record” holding with each other. We’ll call each set of values and self-descriptions the person’s “custom avatar” for the other.
• If you are talking with a girl for the first time, the custom avatars you have for each other are basically blank slates. If you can control how these are built, you can influence the course of conversation, and the degree of openness the woman exhibits.
• If a girl goes “on-record” with values of making her own decisions, having a high sex drive, being adventurous, and so forth, that will make her want to act in ways that will make her a good lover.
• If a girl goes “on-record” as being cautious, religious, and sexually reserved, these will make her want to act in ways that will not make her a good lover — or any kind of lover.
• A girl values all these conflicting values to some degree.
• If you leave it to chance, she’ll go on-record with a mixture of her values, and you’ll have mixed results.
• On the other hand, if you carefully help her construct her avatar for you — you get her to go on-record with “good lover” values, and avoid letting her go on-record with “bad lover” values, you will be much more likely to create a good lover out of her.
• You also want to present the right values to her, and avoid presenting the wrong values to her.
• You should present yourself as non-judgmental, sexually skillful, and good at keeping secrets.
• You should avoid presenting yourself as a judgmental, awkward blabbermouth.

Now much of this method mirrors a method a guy named Captain Jack is using with great success. Where I talk of “building avatars out of values” he talks of setting frames.

I think values talk is much better than frames talk here, and I hope to get time to explain the whole psychology behind this (much of it comes from my Ph.D. dissertation).

But I want to give major props to Captain Jack, because he is dead on with his approach, even if he is still working out how to explain the theory behind it. While I have the theory down better, he has the practice down pat.

Now, a little. . .

WARNING:

There’s something you should know.

This method does NOT help you approach women or get them into conversation with you.

What it does is probably TRIPLE your chances of turning a girl into a lover once you’ve started a good conversation.

 Captain Jack himself says that if there’s any area he’s inconsistent it’s with approaching and opening. Once he’s done that, though, he’s got a very high percentage of closes.

So, with a 1-2 punch you should be almost unstoppable.

1. Use a good opening system to get into good conversation.

2. Use the new value/frame theory to take it from there.

I hope to have some time to present more on this. In the meantime, I’m going to be working on my approaches and openings, so I can get into more conversations and close a lot more deals.

If you want a GREAT guide on opening and approaching — good for beginners and advanced pickup artists — the best I know is Carlos Xuma’s guide:  How To Approach Women 

(I see he also has an advanced course now.  I’m going to check that out when I get a chance: How To Approach Women — Advanced)

I listened to this a couple of years ago. Carlos has a very straightforward manner, and he’s easy to learn from. I’m in the middle of listening again, and it’s already helping me correct some flaws that had crept into my approach/opening methods since I last listened.

Anyway, stay tuned. I’m excited to explain the method and the psychology behind it further. And most importantly, I want to talk about HOW to elicit the proper values from her, and HOW to present the proper values to her. And WHEN in the interaction to do these things.

For now, feel free to leave respectful comments and questions.

Sincerely,

T.P.