How To Be Discreet And Sexual At The Same Time

I was sitting near a couple at a coffee shop on Monday, and it was clear that they had met on an online dating site, and this was their first time meeting in person.

At first I thought it was kind of cute. You know what I’m talking about, right?

As I eavesdropped on the conversation, though, I very quickly understood that this guy knew what he was doing. The girl did, too, but then the girl always knows what’s going on. It’s guys who are usually clueless.

When they walked out, about 30 minutes later. I was almost 100% sure they were heading for one of their places to have some fun together.

Now, 3 or so years ago, I would have had no clue what was going on. In fact, I would have guessed that the guy was “blowing it”. He wasn’t demonstrating enough value. He wasn’t generating enough attraction. He wasn’t doing it the way Mystery or Style or any of the guru pickup artists would tell him to do it.

But three years later, this last Monday, because of the writing and thinking and gaming I’ve done over the last 3 years, I could clearly see what was going on.

This guy was a complete natural, and what would seem like ordinary boring conversation was actually extremely sexual and arousing to the girl.

I could see it, in part, because that’s how I’ve been doing it the last 6 months or so, too.

Basically, through ordinary boring conversation, this guy steadily negotiated what kind of relationship they would have together, and worked out all the logistics.

And they NEVER actually said any of these things directly.

They told stories about “friends”.

They talked about movies they liked that had different scenarios in them, and they felt out how each other felt about various scenarios.

Why does this work?

Basically this guy had a clear idea about his outcome, and he steadily got all the logistics worked out as they “chit chatted”. He reinforced things that got them closer to his outcome, and steered away from things that might take them further away. He communicated very clearly to her, in a way she completely vibed with, and in a way that most guys would have never understood.

He knew what he wanted, learned what she was game for, and got it worked out quickly.

This guy’s natural method was deadly effective. And it was completely respectful of the woman he was with.

So, how do you do seduce women discreetly like this yourself?

There are some techniques involved.

And there is some theory involved.

But not much.

And you don’t need to start with the techniques. In fact, you should NOT start with the techniques.

You must start with your sense of purpose. You must exercise your “purpose muscles”. You must become more alpha. You must become the kind of guy who knows exactly what he wants and is used to making it happen.

Then, and only then, you can work on communicating what you want to the girl in a subtle, discreet and speedy way.

Then, and only then, you can find the stories and examples to talk about with her that move the two of you toward your goal. In fact most of these can just flow from ordinary conversation. You don’t need to have anything “rehearsed” — though it can help to have a story or two to fall back on.

Now,

Speaking of “discreet and confidential” . . .

And speaking of alpha male . . .

My friend John Alexander has spent years studying what the true meaning of “alpha male” is. It’s not what you think. It has a lot more to do with your sense of purpose than with how you dress or talk.

If you’re serious about attracting women, you will have much more success if you figure out how to be an alpha male than if you learn all the flirting and attraction routines in the world.

And John’s guide comes to you “discreet and confidential”.

Check it out. Buy it. Do the exercises. Become Alpha.

Peace.

Tyler.