OK, so, if you’re on my flirting club email list, you know that there’s a brand new system coming out that promises to revolutionize your ability to attract women.

You also know that I think PROFILING women is a big part of succeeding.  And there are some profiling schemes out there.  Brett Tate has one scheme.  Robert Green has another.

But Vin Dicarlo seems to be onto a scheme that’s better than any other profiling scheme that’s come before.

And this is huge for you.  It means you can take one of two approaches when you go out, and succeed much more often with either approach:

1.  You can decide which of the 8 types you want to specialize in, identify them, and develop your approach to appeal to that specific type so you can succeed with that type of woman at a very high percent success rate.

OR

2.  You can take any attractive woman that comes along, determine her type, and then change your approach to match her type.

If you want to remain more “true to yourself”, you might want to take path #1.  If you’re more of a chameleon, and like the challenge of mastering all the types, you can take path #2.

Now Vin has been giving you some free tastes of this new system.  But, here’s the problem . . .

Vin’s not revealing everything yet.

But I can help some in this post,

So keep reading . . .

So far, Vin has given you a free book that explains how women fall on different sides of three dimensions, and this affects how you should approach them.

The three dimensions are:

Relationship: Some women are more stay at home, build a nest and cuddle with her man types.  Others are always up for adventure and get bored if cooped up too long.

Time: Most women want to find a quality man, but they have different strategies for finding Mr. Right.  Some want to date a bunch of guys and then choose the best of the bunch.  These respond to a cocky approach filled with intrigue.  Others want to find someone “good enough” and then change him into Mr. Right. These respond to charm and romance.

Sex: If there’s the hint of possibility in the air, and you want to get sexual with a woman, some of them need to be made to feel safe, while others simply need you to turn them on.

If you want to read his free book “One Minute Mind Reading”, you have to sign up to be on his list:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

Now, Vin claims (and I find it very plausible from my experience) that if you take a woman who responds one way on any of these dimensions, and you approach her as if she were the other type, you’re going to FAIL.  But if you approach her the way she responds to, your chances go WAY UP.

OK, so far so good.

Now Vin also put out a free video that lays out 8 types of women:

Playette

Social Butterfly

Hopeful Romantic

Cinderella

Your Private Dancer

Seductress

Connoisseur

Modern Woman

Again, if you want to see that video, you’ll have to get on his list:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

And the theory goes that each of these types is a different combination of the three approach types.

But Vin didn’t tie them together yet, and he hasn’t given much detail about how to approach each type for maximal success.

Anyway, at this point I haven’t seen much more than you have.

I’ll try to get some more sneak peaks and keep you posted.

But I did sit down and do my best to figure it out myself.  And here’s what I’ve come up with so far:

This chart won’t mean much unless you see Vin’s video, so make sure to sign up and see that if you haven’t already:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

Now, I don’t know if I’ve nailed it or not, but this is my best guess. I don’t even know if my way of understanding the three “Question-Lines” is quite right, so that could affect whether I’ve matched it up right.  But I think this is close.

Here’s what I’d like you to do.

Read through the “One Minute Mind Reading” book again.  Watch the video again, and then, . . .

If you have any different ideas about how the different types match up with the time line, the sex line, and the relationship line, please post your ideas below.

Or, feel free to just post your respectful comments and questions below.  I should be around some to interact.

Cheers.

Tyler

P.S. I’m REALLY excited to see Vin’s new system in full.  I think this is  one of the only gaps left from my own teaching.

I’ve taught you how to be generally socially smooth through trigger-banter style flirting.

And with Avatar Seduction, I showed you how to take a woman from being interested to the point where she wants to sleep with you.

The missing piece is exactly this – how to generate the specific interest and attraction that gets you into conversation in the first place.

And profiling is a way to double or triple your chances of success.

And this seems like a VERY good profiling scheme.

Seriously, pay attention to what Vin is doing here.

Peace.

Tyler.

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SOME CLARIFYING REMARKS

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Wow, this post seemed like a good idea at the time, . . .

Unfortunately, I think it’s off target a bit, and I want to clarify what I’m really trying to say here in this preamble.

I’ll leave the original post intact, because it does have some good stuff, but it needs serious qualification and clarification in hindsight, so that’s what I’m doing right now.

First, I am not saying to only flirt with women who want to flirt (the original title of the post). 

I need to make a distinction between “flirting” and “gaming”.

You should “flirt” with anyone.  That’s partly your way of finding out which girls are game, and which ones aren’t.  And it’s also your way of letting women know that you’re game, and fun, and smart, and all that.

Gaming, however is the next step. It’s when you try to draw a particular woman into conversation for the purpose of starting a romantic/sexual relationship with her.

When it comes to gaming, it’s often best to notice which women are game, and which aren’t.  If there are attractive women giving out signals that they’re game, pay attention!  They’re trying to make it easy for you.  And if there are attractive women giving out signals that they’re not game, then I’m just saying, you might consider saving your energy.  Not written in stone, but often a good idea.  Focus on the ones who want to play.

And, let me re-iterate that you will not get as many “come play with me” signals if you don’t know how to flirt.  That’s a big part of how you draw them out.

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ORIGINAL POST FOLLOWS

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Sorry, I haven’t written in a while. I’ve got a lot to say, but haven’t had much time to write lately. I’ll try to write more regularly going forward.

Let me start by asking your opinion about an interaction between a man and a woman at a Coffee shop.  What do you think of this approach?

Him: Hi

Her: Hi. 

Him: So, are you on your way to work?

Her: Yeah.

Him: What do you do?

Her: Blah.

Him: Oh, you’re a Blaher, . . . so if I needed some blah right now, you’d be the one to hook me up, right?

Her: Laugh.

Him: I like your laugh.  I want to make you laugh some more.  Hey, listen, I know you’ve got to get to work, but I’m enjoying you. How crazy would it be if you gave me your phone number or email address, and I had a chance to get you to laugh for me some more.

 [He pulls out a pen and grabs a napkin, or offers his phone for her to enter her number, or tries to get her to call him right there, or whatever]

Sounds a little cheesy, right?

And notice that this dialogue breaks a lot of the rules that so-called pickup artists will tell you.  It breaks some rules I’ve taught as well.

First, it starts with boring topics.  “Hi”.  “Are you going to work?”  If you ask some “experts”, those kinds of questions are to be avoided at all costs.

Second, the frame around the interaction might be questionable.  When he offers to make her laugh some more, it’s like he’s a little dancing monkey offering to entertain her, right?

Question: So, what do you think the odds are that the man gets the contact info?

Answer:  it all has to do with the woman’s frame of mind.  In some situations that approach would actually work like a charm.  Let me explain.

Here’s a general principle:

“If she’s ready to play,

don’t overcomplicate things.”

If you’re just starting out, and haven’t built your social intuition much, you might be trying to jump-start your love life by trying to talk to every woman you can.  And that’s alright, because you will learn an awful lot very quickly.

But once you’re comfortable in your own skin, and have enough skill to manage a conversation for a few minutes with a new woman, you can relax and start working on your “mind reading” skills.

Then you can have a little more discretion about whom you flirt with.

If you ask me, I’d much rather approach a woman who has indicated that she’d like me to talk with her, than to approach someone who’s busy and try to persuade her that she should talk with me – let alone trying to take a woman who has actually indicated the opposite – that she’s NOT interested in talking – and try to get her interested in having a conversation.

If she’s not giving signals of openness, you need really good game to get into a good conversation, because sometimes she’s not game, and you have to convince her to talk with you.

On the flip side, if she’s already giving signals of openness, before you first talk to her, good game can actually get in the way.

And here’s a news alert . . . the same news alert you might have to hear several times to believe, but it’s very, very, true . . . WOMEN, ESPECIALLY SINGLE WOMEN, AND WOMEN WHO ARE BORED WITH THEIR CURRENT PARTNER,WANT TO FLIRT WITH MEN, AND THEY WANT TO FIND MEN TO HAVE SEX WITH – NOT ALL THE TIME, AND NOT WITH EVERY MAN, BUT OFTEN, AND THEY ARE OPEN TO A WIDE VARIETY OF MEN  (I DON’T KNOW WHO YOU ARE SPECIFICALLY, MY READER, BUT THERE ARE PROBABLY MANY WOMEN WHO WOULD LOVE TO FLIRT WITH YOU).  WOMEN ARE OFTEN VERY HORNY AND GET VERY DISAPPOINTED WHEN MEN CAN’T READ THEIR SIGNALS, OR WHEN MEN BAIL ON A GOOD CONVERSATION BECAUSE THEY FELT NERVOUS, OR WHATEVER.  WOMEN HAVE TO ACT LIKE IT’S NOT THEIR IDEA, BUT THEY ARE OUT THERE SCHEMING FOR WAYS TO GET YOU TO TALK WITH THEM.

So, . . .

What Are The Signals?

First, let’s talk about what signals a woman gives when she is NOT open to talking.

Have you ever been standing at a spot a woman is approaching, and, all of a sudden, she acts like her phone is ringing, she puts it to her ear, and doesn’t even look at you as she brushes by?

That’s her signaling that she’s not in a mood to play.

Don’t take it personally. It’s the same thing you probably consider doing when you see a beggar ahead on the street, and you’re not in a giving mood.

Don’t worry about these situations.  It’s human.  Sometimes women are in the mood to play, and sometimes they’re not. 

I wouldn’t advise you to try to push through her defense in a situation like this.  There are so many women out there who want to play, why badger someone who’s not?  She could have a hundred reasons for not wanting to play right now.  She’s in a hurry, she’s in love with someone else, she doesn’t like the way you look, who knows? 

OK, so now that we’ve gotten that out of the way,

what does it look like when

a woman WANTS to flirt?

Have you ever been browsing books at a bookstore, a woman walks by in the aisle on one side of the stacks, and then you see her coming around the other side of the stacks, looking like she’s browsing the books a couple sections down from you? 

Guess what?  She probably wants you to start a conversation with her.

It’s the same thing you do when you see a woman you want to talk to and you’re feeling shy.  You try to position yourself so a conversation will “Just happen”. 

If you find her attractive, don’t let her down.  If you have a great playfully arrogant line of trigger banter, deliver it with gusto.  If not, just say “Hi, what are you looking for over there?”

Now, let’s first ask,

What’s the worst that can happen?

 She could get a little stiff, and answer with one word answers and start staring at the books again.

That’s a signal she doesn’t want to play.

You say: “Have a nice day”.

You could plow through, but why not look for someone else giving you positive signals.

And that’s just the worst case scenario.  It’s good to have that in mind, so you know your default plan if it happens, and so you know it’s not so bad.

What’s more likely is that, . . .

She’ll Engage You In Conversation

 She’ll say something like, “Oh, I don’t know, my sister told me about this book that was about vampires, and it was, . . . blah, blah, blah.

Guess what?  You’re in.  Just go with it.  If the conversation goes well, invite her for an instant coffee date.  Or get her contact info.

Try to float mildly sexual topics (ease into it), and see if she goes along with it. If so, she’s probably got a little interest in you sexually.

In general, if things are going well, you want to set certain frames and elicit certain values, but that’s a topic for another day. (Did I mention that that’s the topic of my next book?)

If you’re interested, don’t bail on her without getting contact info, or getting CLEAR signals that she’s not interested.  You might bail on a good opportunity.

Now,

Here’s A Question You Might Have At This Point

If normal boring conversation topics work when a woman’s interested, do you really need to know how to flirt?  What about the book “Flirting Deconstructed”?  Is that all swept under the rug now?

Why not just wait until you spot women who wants to talk, and just do normal boring conversation?

Well Trigger-Banter-Style Flirting is still as important as ever.  Here are a couple reasons why:

1.  You have to flirt some with a woman as you’re getting to know her. You can’t be boring, boring, boring all the time and get away with that – at least not with any interesting woman.  And being good at trigger banter will help you guide the frame as you get to know the girl.

2.  Unless women know that you’re game, they won’t be as apt to give you signals that they’re game.  If you’re good at trigger banter, making other people laugh with some playful arrogance, or warm dominance, or cocky funny humor, or whatever you want to call it, you will find that girls start giving you many more signals of openness.  You’ll have a lot more to work with.  I promise!

If you haven’t had a chance to pick up my book Flirting Deconstructed, here’s the link.  It’s inexpensive and life-changing:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/fd_oto.php

Take care,

T.P.

P.S.  Feel free to comment on the content of this post.  I’d love to know what you think.  [Feel free to disagree, too, but respectful comments only, please]

Trigger Banter Flirt Routine I Know

OK, I wasn’t going to share this.  I’m usually torn on things like this.  I want to share very good flirting lines and tips with you to help you trigger better reactions from women.  But I’m also hesitant to share my very very best stuff, because I don’t want women to hear my best lines everywhere they go. And besides, I’m teaching you the best system in the world for coming up with your own great flirting lines.

Anyway, I’m going to share my most reliable piece of opening-phase banter with you today.

Here’s why:

1.  I don’t think women will get tired of this one even if every guy in the world winds up using it.

2.  I’ve actually seen another dating teacher teach this one, so the cat’s already out of the bag a little bit.

You might even use this one already. Probably not, though.

I’ll get to it in a minute, but first, I’m sure you’ve heard that you should avoid “ordinary boring conversational topics”.

I have a differnent view.  I think . . .

You can use ordinary boring

conversational topics

to your advantage.

If you do it right.

What are the so-called “boring questions”? 

What do you do?

Are you in school?

What’s your major?

Do you have kids?

Where did you grow up?

How long have you lived here?

Do you live around here?

Can those questions lead to a dead conversation?  Yes.  Do they have to?  No.

The key is this:

BORING QUESTION RULE:  If you ask a “boring question”, you must PLAY with her answer.

And, . . .

That gets me back to my

favorite opening banter line:

I will often, very early in the conversation, ask a woman what she does for a living, or, if she’s in school, I’ll ask her what she’s studying. 

And then . . .

I play with her answer.

If she says she’s studying radiology, I’ll say “Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you’d totally help me out.  You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?”

She laughs.  She feels like you value her for something other than her looks.  And you frame the interaction as one of her being ready to SERVE you in some way.

Give me another one.  Just shout it out.

HER: “I’m a massage therapist”.

ME: “Oh, good, so if I suddenly get the worst cramp ever in my hand, you’d totally be able to heal me, right?”

Another one . . .

HER: “I walk dogs for a living”.

ME: “Shoot, I was going to bring my dog to the coffee shop today, but decided not to.  You would have totally walked my dog all over the coffee shop, right?”

For some reason the word “totally” seem to work in this context.  It conveys a kind of hype and enthusiasm that tells her that you’re doing some fun role-playing.

I totally don’t usually talk like that.

It also helps to not go too pervy here.  Notice with the massage therapist I had a “hand cramp” that she could help me with.  I wasn’t making jokes about “happy endings”.

Anyway, give that a shot the next time you talk with a woman.  Use it even on women you’re not attracted to — just to get the practice in.  I even use it with little old ladies.  “My goodness, I can tell, if you were my Grandma, you would totally bake me cookies every day, even though my mommy told you not to.”  They all love it!

If you want more advice about triggering good reactions from women, and you haven’t gotten my book yet, here’s a link to the page where I offer it at a discount:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/fd_oto.php

Take care.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. Feel free to comment on this line, or share your success stories using lines like this.

I don’t think you should work at having a positive mental attitude. I think it can hurt your chances with women. In fact, I think it can hurt your chances of success in almost any endeavor. Toward the end of this article I’ll tell you which attitude will help you attract women more.

But first,

here’s the problem with a

positive mental attitude . . .

A couple years back I was reading in a forum devoted to dating and attraction. And someone suggested that the best way to get good approaching women was to approach 20 sets a night and try to get “blown out”.

For those of you who are new to the dating and attraction online community, “approaching 20 sets” means that you engage 20 women, or groups containing women, in at least a little chit chat. And getting “blown out” means that, at some point, they either go cold on you, walk away, or ask you to go away.

I also remember one of the main moderators of the forum, and a major personality in the field, telling the guy he thought it was a terrible idea.

What do you think?

A) Good idea.

B) Terrible idea.

Before I tell you my answer, let me tell you that the moderator believed guys should go into every set believing 100% that they would succeed with this set.

OK, now, my answer is that I have a qualified agreement with the poster, and not the moderator.

Let me qualify the answer a bit. I’m not sure it’s the best idea to go in and “try” to get blown out. But I do think . . .

it’s good to go in and
EXPECT to get blown out.

Let me explain.

Here are two alternatives:

Approach Attitude # 1: When you approach a woman you should believe 100% that you will succeed in attracting her, and eventually getting her into bed and/or a relationship.

Approach Attitude # 2: When you approach a woman you should believe that it probably won’t go anywhere, but you’re going to take your chances anyway.

There are some things to be said in favor of a positive attitude:

One idea behind having the positive attitude is that having a positive attitude will motivate you more.

Another is that will help you get into the frame of mind of a man who always gets the girl, and the girl will pick up on this and assume you’re good with women and will be more attracted to you.

Some people also believe in a new-age type process that ensures that if you release your positive intention into the universe, the universe will help you find a way to get what you want, if only you truly believe.

HOWEVER, . . .

Suppose, in spite of your evidence to the contrary, you manage to believe you will definitely succeed on your next approach. And suppose you approach a woman, and it doesn’t go that well. What then? Do you beat up on yourself for not “believing enough”?

Do you “trick” yourself yet again? Do you forget all your past failures, and pretend you’re superman again before the next approach?

At what point are you a pathetic delusional over-optimist?

At what point do you stop believing your own bullshit?

A positive mental attitude eventually wears thin. And it can keep you from looking frankly at your interactions so you can figure out what actually works, and what doesn’t in the real world.

So, . . .

What attitude should you have?

Mark this down.

It’s the key attitude for success in any field.

Key Success Attitude: “Expect to fail, but try anyway”

And this should be paired with a followup rule:

Key Followup Rule: “Learn something from each interaction, adjust your approach, and try again.”

This is how Edison created the first viable lightbulb.

This is how good businesses grow.

This is how you get better at video games and sports.

This is how you get better with women.

Now, the initial attitude is very important for approaching women. But there’s a lot more to it than that. You also need some things to say, and you need to experience enough responses from women, so you can handle contingencies as they come up. (In other words, you know that “if she says or does X, I say or do Y”).

If you want to get good approaching women, here’s my advice.

If you haven’t read my book yet, get it, read it, and start building your flirting skills (it really teaches you the process of learning from failure, modifying your approach, and eventually having a great line for every situation):

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/flirting_deconstructed.php

(Note, the price will be rising soon, so get it while it’s cheap.)

If you have read Flirting Deconstructed, then, second, . . .

If you haven’t read Joseph Matthew’s “Art of Approaching” guide, get that and read it. (if you can’t afford his paid book, at least get the free book he’s offering — but you’d better be seriously poor to not want this serious shortcut to getting good with women for such a pittance. Women can sense it when a man isn’t willing to take charge of his own destiny! For a little more, he offers coaching, too.):

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/aoa.php

Once you’ve read both of those, then get out there and keep trying, keep learning, and keep adjusting. You will get good.

Take care.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. I’d love to know your comments on this post. It’s something I’ve been wanting to share for a while.

How To CREATE
Your Perfect Lover

Yes, you read that right. There are (very new) methods you can start using today that will help you take a woman you’ve just started hitting it off with and “create” a lover out of her.

Keep reading. I can’t share everything today, but you’ll get a good idea how things work by the time you finish reading this post.

And, please, . . . feel free to leave comments after reading this post. Or ask questions. Anything respectful is welcome, and your comments and questions will help shape future posts on this topic.

Have You Ever . . .

Have you ever been talking with a girl, thinking things were going so well you were going to get lucky the very first day or night, . . . then you started talking about meeting her friends, and things started cooling off right away?

Have you ever thought you were getting into an “open” relationship only to have the girl get jealous the very next day when you just *looked* at another girl?

Have you ever felt like you and the girl were into each other, but the longer the conversation went on, the more it got awkward, because neither of you knew how to take things to the next level?

There’s a reason things

go wrong like this.

It has to do with the psychology at play when you meet a new person and start talking with them.

When you first meet a person, you each *CREATE* custom personalities for interacting with each other.

This is a *GOLDEN* opportunity.

Here’s a very broad overview of the psychology involved (kind of a “sketch”), and how to use the psychology to improve the rate at which you turn good conversations into some good loving.

I’ll just present it in bullet-list form:

• Many things work together to motivate a woman to take the paths she takes through a conversation. (her desires, the judgments of her friends, etc).
• One of the most powerful shapers of conversational flow is the set of values and self-descriptions the two parties are “on-record” holding with each other. We’ll call each set of values and self-descriptions the person’s “custom avatar” for the other.
• If you are talking with a girl for the first time, the custom avatars you have for each other are basically blank slates. If you can control how these are built, you can influence the course of conversation, and the degree of openness the woman exhibits.
• If a girl goes “on-record” with values of making her own decisions, having a high sex drive, being adventurous, and so forth, that will make her want to act in ways that will make her a good lover.
• If a girl goes “on-record” as being cautious, religious, and sexually reserved, these will make her want to act in ways that will not make her a good lover — or any kind of lover.
• A girl values all these conflicting values to some degree.
• If you leave it to chance, she’ll go on-record with a mixture of her values, and you’ll have mixed results.
• On the other hand, if you carefully help her construct her avatar for you — you get her to go on-record with “good lover” values, and avoid letting her go on-record with “bad lover” values, you will be much more likely to create a good lover out of her.
• You also want to present the right values to her, and avoid presenting the wrong values to her.
• You should present yourself as non-judgmental, sexually skillful, and good at keeping secrets.
• You should avoid presenting yourself as a judgmental, awkward blabbermouth.

Now much of this method mirrors a method a guy named Captain Jack is using with great success. Where I talk of “building avatars out of values” he talks of setting frames.

I think values talk is much better than frames talk here, and I hope to get time to explain the whole psychology behind this (much of it comes from my Ph.D. dissertation).

But I want to give major props to Captain Jack, because he is dead on with his approach, even if he is still working out how to explain the theory behind it. While I have the theory down better, he has the practice down pat.

Now, a little. . .

WARNING:

There’s something you should know.

This method does NOT help you approach women or get them into conversation with you.

What it does is probably TRIPLE your chances of turning a girl into a lover once you’ve started a good conversation.

 Captain Jack himself says that if there’s any area he’s inconsistent it’s with approaching and opening. Once he’s done that, though, he’s got a very high percentage of closes.

So, with a 1-2 punch you should be almost unstoppable.

1. Use a good opening system to get into good conversation.

2. Use the new value/frame theory to take it from there.

I hope to have some time to present more on this. In the meantime, I’m going to be working on my approaches and openings, so I can get into more conversations and close a lot more deals.

If you want a GREAT guide on opening and approaching — good for beginners and advanced pickup artists — the best I know is Carlos Xuma’s guide:  How To Approach Women 

(I see he also has an advanced course now.  I’m going to check that out when I get a chance: How To Approach Women — Advanced)

I listened to this a couple of years ago. Carlos has a very straightforward manner, and he’s easy to learn from. I’m in the middle of listening again, and it’s already helping me correct some flaws that had crept into my approach/opening methods since I last listened.

Anyway, stay tuned. I’m excited to explain the method and the psychology behind it further. And most importantly, I want to talk about HOW to elicit the proper values from her, and HOW to present the proper values to her. And WHEN in the interaction to do these things.

For now, feel free to leave respectful comments and questions.

Sincerely,

T.P.