OK, so, if you’re on my flirting club email list, you know that there’s a brand new system coming out that promises to revolutionize your ability to attract women.

You also know that I think PROFILING women is a big part of succeeding.  And there are some profiling schemes out there.  Brett Tate has one scheme.  Robert Green has another.

But Vin Dicarlo seems to be onto a scheme that’s better than any other profiling scheme that’s come before.

And this is huge for you.  It means you can take one of two approaches when you go out, and succeed much more often with either approach:

1.  You can decide which of the 8 types you want to specialize in, identify them, and develop your approach to appeal to that specific type so you can succeed with that type of woman at a very high percent success rate.

OR

2.  You can take any attractive woman that comes along, determine her type, and then change your approach to match her type.

If you want to remain more “true to yourself”, you might want to take path #1.  If you’re more of a chameleon, and like the challenge of mastering all the types, you can take path #2.

Now Vin has been giving you some free tastes of this new system.  But, here’s the problem . . .

Vin’s not revealing everything yet.

But I can help some in this post,

So keep reading . . .

So far, Vin has given you a free book that explains how women fall on different sides of three dimensions, and this affects how you should approach them.

The three dimensions are:

Relationship: Some women are more stay at home, build a nest and cuddle with her man types.  Others are always up for adventure and get bored if cooped up too long.

Time: Most women want to find a quality man, but they have different strategies for finding Mr. Right.  Some want to date a bunch of guys and then choose the best of the bunch.  These respond to a cocky approach filled with intrigue.  Others want to find someone “good enough” and then change him into Mr. Right. These respond to charm and romance.

Sex: If there’s the hint of possibility in the air, and you want to get sexual with a woman, some of them need to be made to feel safe, while others simply need you to turn them on.

If you want to read his free book “One Minute Mind Reading”, you have to sign up to be on his list:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

Now, Vin claims (and I find it very plausible from my experience) that if you take a woman who responds one way on any of these dimensions, and you approach her as if she were the other type, you’re going to FAIL.  But if you approach her the way she responds to, your chances go WAY UP.

OK, so far so good.

Now Vin also put out a free video that lays out 8 types of women:

Playette

Social Butterfly

Hopeful Romantic

Cinderella

Your Private Dancer

Seductress

Connoisseur

Modern Woman

Again, if you want to see that video, you’ll have to get on his list:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

And the theory goes that each of these types is a different combination of the three approach types.

But Vin didn’t tie them together yet, and he hasn’t given much detail about how to approach each type for maximal success.

Anyway, at this point I haven’t seen much more than you have.

I’ll try to get some more sneak peaks and keep you posted.

But I did sit down and do my best to figure it out myself.  And here’s what I’ve come up with so far:

This chart won’t mean much unless you see Vin’s video, so make sure to sign up and see that if you haven’t already:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/pandora.php

Now, I don’t know if I’ve nailed it or not, but this is my best guess. I don’t even know if my way of understanding the three “Question-Lines” is quite right, so that could affect whether I’ve matched it up right.  But I think this is close.

Here’s what I’d like you to do.

Read through the “One Minute Mind Reading” book again.  Watch the video again, and then, . . .

If you have any different ideas about how the different types match up with the time line, the sex line, and the relationship line, please post your ideas below.

Or, feel free to just post your respectful comments and questions below.  I should be around some to interact.

Cheers.

Tyler

P.S. I’m REALLY excited to see Vin’s new system in full.  I think this is  one of the only gaps left from my own teaching.

I’ve taught you how to be generally socially smooth through trigger-banter style flirting.

And with Avatar Seduction, I showed you how to take a woman from being interested to the point where she wants to sleep with you.

The missing piece is exactly this – how to generate the specific interest and attraction that gets you into conversation in the first place.

And profiling is a way to double or triple your chances of success.

And this seems like a VERY good profiling scheme.

Seriously, pay attention to what Vin is doing here.

Peace.

Tyler.

Trigger Banter Flirt Routine I Know

OK, I wasn’t going to share this.  I’m usually torn on things like this.  I want to share very good flirting lines and tips with you to help you trigger better reactions from women.  But I’m also hesitant to share my very very best stuff, because I don’t want women to hear my best lines everywhere they go. And besides, I’m teaching you the best system in the world for coming up with your own great flirting lines.

Anyway, I’m going to share my most reliable piece of opening-phase banter with you today.

Here’s why:

1.  I don’t think women will get tired of this one even if every guy in the world winds up using it.

2.  I’ve actually seen another dating teacher teach this one, so the cat’s already out of the bag a little bit.

You might even use this one already. Probably not, though.

I’ll get to it in a minute, but first, I’m sure you’ve heard that you should avoid “ordinary boring conversational topics”.

I have a differnent view.  I think . . .

You can use ordinary boring

conversational topics

to your advantage.

If you do it right.

What are the so-called “boring questions”? 

What do you do?

Are you in school?

What’s your major?

Do you have kids?

Where did you grow up?

How long have you lived here?

Do you live around here?

Can those questions lead to a dead conversation?  Yes.  Do they have to?  No.

The key is this:

BORING QUESTION RULE:  If you ask a “boring question”, you must PLAY with her answer.

And, . . .

That gets me back to my

favorite opening banter line:

I will often, very early in the conversation, ask a woman what she does for a living, or, if she’s in school, I’ll ask her what she’s studying. 

And then . . .

I play with her answer.

If she says she’s studying radiology, I’ll say “Oh, good, so if I were to break my leg right now, you’d totally help me out.  You probably have X-ray equipment right in your backpack, right?”

She laughs.  She feels like you value her for something other than her looks.  And you frame the interaction as one of her being ready to SERVE you in some way.

Give me another one.  Just shout it out.

HER: “I’m a massage therapist”.

ME: “Oh, good, so if I suddenly get the worst cramp ever in my hand, you’d totally be able to heal me, right?”

Another one . . .

HER: “I walk dogs for a living”.

ME: “Shoot, I was going to bring my dog to the coffee shop today, but decided not to.  You would have totally walked my dog all over the coffee shop, right?”

For some reason the word “totally” seem to work in this context.  It conveys a kind of hype and enthusiasm that tells her that you’re doing some fun role-playing.

I totally don’t usually talk like that.

It also helps to not go too pervy here.  Notice with the massage therapist I had a “hand cramp” that she could help me with.  I wasn’t making jokes about “happy endings”.

Anyway, give that a shot the next time you talk with a woman.  Use it even on women you’re not attracted to — just to get the practice in.  I even use it with little old ladies.  “My goodness, I can tell, if you were my Grandma, you would totally bake me cookies every day, even though my mommy told you not to.”  They all love it!

If you want more advice about triggering good reactions from women, and you haven’t gotten my book yet, here’s a link to the page where I offer it at a discount:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/fd_oto.php

Take care.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. Feel free to comment on this line, or share your success stories using lines like this.

I don’t think you should work at having a positive mental attitude. I think it can hurt your chances with women. In fact, I think it can hurt your chances of success in almost any endeavor. Toward the end of this article I’ll tell you which attitude will help you attract women more.

But first,

here’s the problem with a

positive mental attitude . . .

A couple years back I was reading in a forum devoted to dating and attraction. And someone suggested that the best way to get good approaching women was to approach 20 sets a night and try to get “blown out”.

For those of you who are new to the dating and attraction online community, “approaching 20 sets” means that you engage 20 women, or groups containing women, in at least a little chit chat. And getting “blown out” means that, at some point, they either go cold on you, walk away, or ask you to go away.

I also remember one of the main moderators of the forum, and a major personality in the field, telling the guy he thought it was a terrible idea.

What do you think?

A) Good idea.

B) Terrible idea.

Before I tell you my answer, let me tell you that the moderator believed guys should go into every set believing 100% that they would succeed with this set.

OK, now, my answer is that I have a qualified agreement with the poster, and not the moderator.

Let me qualify the answer a bit. I’m not sure it’s the best idea to go in and “try” to get blown out. But I do think . . .

it’s good to go in and
EXPECT to get blown out.

Let me explain.

Here are two alternatives:

Approach Attitude # 1: When you approach a woman you should believe 100% that you will succeed in attracting her, and eventually getting her into bed and/or a relationship.

Approach Attitude # 2: When you approach a woman you should believe that it probably won’t go anywhere, but you’re going to take your chances anyway.

There are some things to be said in favor of a positive attitude:

One idea behind having the positive attitude is that having a positive attitude will motivate you more.

Another is that will help you get into the frame of mind of a man who always gets the girl, and the girl will pick up on this and assume you’re good with women and will be more attracted to you.

Some people also believe in a new-age type process that ensures that if you release your positive intention into the universe, the universe will help you find a way to get what you want, if only you truly believe.

HOWEVER, . . .

Suppose, in spite of your evidence to the contrary, you manage to believe you will definitely succeed on your next approach. And suppose you approach a woman, and it doesn’t go that well. What then? Do you beat up on yourself for not “believing enough”?

Do you “trick” yourself yet again? Do you forget all your past failures, and pretend you’re superman again before the next approach?

At what point are you a pathetic delusional over-optimist?

At what point do you stop believing your own bullshit?

A positive mental attitude eventually wears thin. And it can keep you from looking frankly at your interactions so you can figure out what actually works, and what doesn’t in the real world.

So, . . .

What attitude should you have?

Mark this down.

It’s the key attitude for success in any field.

Key Success Attitude: “Expect to fail, but try anyway”

And this should be paired with a followup rule:

Key Followup Rule: “Learn something from each interaction, adjust your approach, and try again.”

This is how Edison created the first viable lightbulb.

This is how good businesses grow.

This is how you get better at video games and sports.

This is how you get better with women.

Now, the initial attitude is very important for approaching women. But there’s a lot more to it than that. You also need some things to say, and you need to experience enough responses from women, so you can handle contingencies as they come up. (In other words, you know that “if she says or does X, I say or do Y”).

If you want to get good approaching women, here’s my advice.

If you haven’t read my book yet, get it, read it, and start building your flirting skills (it really teaches you the process of learning from failure, modifying your approach, and eventually having a great line for every situation):

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/flirting_deconstructed.php

(Note, the price will be rising soon, so get it while it’s cheap.)

If you have read Flirting Deconstructed, then, second, . . .

If you haven’t read Joseph Matthew’s “Art of Approaching” guide, get that and read it. (if you can’t afford his paid book, at least get the free book he’s offering — but you’d better be seriously poor to not want this serious shortcut to getting good with women for such a pittance. Women can sense it when a man isn’t willing to take charge of his own destiny! For a little more, he offers coaching, too.):

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/go/aoa.php

Once you’ve read both of those, then get out there and keep trying, keep learning, and keep adjusting. You will get good.

Take care.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. I’d love to know your comments on this post. It’s something I’ve been wanting to share for a while.

 “Stop Feeling Shame,

And Get In The Game!”

Does any of this sound familiar?

You see a girl you want to talk to, and you can’t talk, so you rationalize that she really wasn’t your type.

You’re home alone on a Friday night wishing you had a woman to cuddle up with.

Or, you and your friends are hanging out playing world of warcraft, or working on your cars, or watching a game, or playing foosball, because none of you have any girls.

Or you go to a party and just hang out in a safe corner watching girls pass by while other guys hook up with them.

Girls just don’t seem to like you very much. Or they like you in a he’s-such-a-nice-guy-friend kind of way. They don’t see you as a sexual being who could rock their world if they’d let you.

And you think, . . . there’s something wrong with you.

Deep down, you feel some SHAME, that you’re not the kind of man that women find attractive.

Shame, shame, shame, . . .

Maybe you should just crawl away to a safe corner of the planet and slither around the rest of your days with your tail between your legs.

Or, maybe . . .

Here’s the problem. It’s not that you’re a bad person. It’s not that you’re an inferior man. In fact, my guess is that you’re probably more educated than most — or at least smarter than most men.

And that’s the problem. While you were studying the world, and physics, and math, and philosophy, and theology, and biology, and computer programming, and cars, and mastering video games, . . .

. . . other guys were learning how to attract women.

You spent tens of thousands of dollars on college, thousands of dollars on computer systems and gaming systems, and thousands of hours learning these things.

Other guys spent thousands of dollars on their lifestyle, or on dating advice, and spent hundreds or thousands of hours thinking about how to make themselves more attractive to women — and PRACTICING.

You were led to believe that romance was just supposed to happen naturally. So you focused on other things.

The other guys didn’t get that memo, and spent time learning how to attract women.

So, what’s the real cause of your current sorry status among women?

It’s not that you’re an inferior man.

It’s simply . . .

Does a 6 year old kid feel shame for not knowing his multiplication table?

Do you feel shame when you get a new video game and can’t clear the first level on your first try?

Do you feel shame when you’re learning a new language and you can’t speak it very well after the first week?

No, you don’t feel shame.

What you do is,

Keep Learning,

and Keep Practicing.

That’s the key. Keep learning. Learn the theory of attraction. Learn techniques, and practice them. Be willing to make mistakes, and keep at it. You will get better.

In fact, . . .

. . . you’ll get good.

So set aside your shame.

With that said, there are two circumstances that should lead to shame:

1. You don’t take the first step and start learning how to attract women.

2. You don’t practice what you’re learning.

If you don’t do those things you should feel shame. You really aren’t worthy of having a woman if you aren’t willing to learn and practice.

But that’s not you. You’ve already shown that you’re willing to learn. You’ve taken the first steps already.

And now, . . .

I’m going to suggest a next step

for your education in women.

You really need to purchase a good general guide on attraction theory and techniques.Then you need to practice.

Then you need to find materials that fill in your gaps.

And then you need to practice some more.

If you spend 1/10 the money, and 1/10 the time you’ve spent on learning other things — often less important things — on learning how to attract women, you’ll get good. Very good.

Here’s my recommendation for a good general guide:

Guy Gets Girl. It’s a guide written by a woman for men. It’s a very good overview with some great specific techniques. If you read that book over the next two days, and practice over the next week, you’ll already see improvement. And you’ll start to see the point of learning and practicing.

Here’s the link:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/ggg/ggg.php

And keep reading the emails I send you. I’ll help guide you as you learn.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. Please feel free to leave a respectful comment to this post.

And here’s the link to Guy Gets Girl again:

 http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/ggg/ggg.php

People do dangerous things when they’re lonely. This man jumped into a polar bear’s cage.

That could have been painful. But looking for love is often painful.

I remember seeing a talk show on a cable channel a couple years back.

The title of the show was something like “Why can’t this guy get a date”.

The guy being interviewed was lonely and turning 40. He’d never had a successful love life. He’d had a couple girlfriends along the way, but they were needy wrecks, who caused more heartache than happiness.

Every night when he went to bed he “massaged himself asleep.”

And every morning he would “massage himself awake.”

[That's how they said it.]

And he said that he almost always fantasized about women he knew in the past.

He would dream about how he could have handled situations differently so he could “get the girl” this time.

The host asked him if he’d heard of Mystery and other “pickup gurus” who “get a different woman every night.”

And he answered that he didn’t want a different woman every night.
He just wanted a good woman to be his companion and sexual partner. Someone he enjoys and respects — and who could enjoy and respect him.

Why was this guy so lonely?

As I watched him, I could see that he seemed shy, and seemed to have low self-esteem. He was overweight, but not terribly.

The interviewer asked him what things he had done to try to meet women.

“I try to meet them in bookstores, coffee shops and grocery stores. Stuff like that.”

Then the host suggested that the guy might try finding women in bars and night clubs.

And I remember thinking that that was terrible advice.

In fact, . . .

Bars and Nightclubs are the Last Place

that guy should try to meet women.

And it’s not just because this guy was pushing 40 and had a lot to learn about presenting himself in night clubs.It’s mainly because this guy was looking for “true love”.

And, if you’re looking for true love, bars and night clubs are probably the last place you should look.

Most of the time, after trying to meet women in a night club, you’ll wind up in one of these three conditions:

1. Still lonely (the most likely outcome for this guy)
2. With a woman you don’t enjoy.
3. With a woman you don’t respect.

Is it possible to find true love in a night club?

Sure. It happens sometimes.

But it’s more a place to find someone to “blow off some steam” with.

If you’re young, or just looking for some casual sex, and you don’t mind if the woman isn’t someone you really enjoy and respect, then your chances are actually pretty good in a nightclub, once you get some game.

But if you’re “looking for love”, it’s not the place to go.

This is going to sound strange coming from someone who teaches men how to meet women on their own — how to meet perfect strangers, and have them glowing and attracted, but . . .

I think that if you’re at the place in life where you just want to settle down with someone you’re really well matched with, there’s an option out there that’s amazingly effective.

Chemistry

You’ve probably heard about it.

It was started in consultation with Dr. Helen Fisher.  She is probably the number one scientific expert on relationships in the world.

eHarmony has their “47 dimensions of compatibility”.  Those are good, but somewhat arbitrary compared to the science behind chemistry.com.

There are two parts to the initial profile you fill out.  The first part takes about 10 minutes, and the second 5 minutes.

But for your effort you get something in return.

An incredible screening process.

I took it for a spin, and was amazed:

The first question was based on a piece of science I learned about a year ago.

Some of the questions were kind of fun

The initial free matches they gave me made my heart stop.

You need to
understand something . . .

When I flirt and attract women in my normal life, I can get women attracted to me pretty easily now.  But it’s RARE to talk with one of the women and think “you and I would be a great match”.

When I saw the first 10 matches, no kidding, . . . 8 of the 10 made me think “wow, you and I could be a great match.”

No kidding.

Also . . .

I’ve seen evidence over the last couple years to know the power of preselection.

For instance:

My sister has a friend who was the classic “old maid”. 42 years old, never even been kissed. She came over to my house sat at my computer, and filled out the questionaires.

She  got a paid membership and soon had 14 “suitors”. Eventually she picked one. They started dating. I met the guy recently. And, I must admit, they seem perfect together. We’re expecting a wedding announcement soon.

So what are you saying, T.P.?

Should I Join Chemistry.com?

I’m not saying that you should join Chemistry.com.

If you like the thrill of meeting someone by chance, and want to become a man who can charm women anywhere, any time, then, by all means, stay on the course of learning how to flirt, and attract women on a “Do It Yourself” basis.

I enjoy that lifestyle, and that’s what I teach.

However, if you’d like to see what it’s like to meet someone who is highly screened, and highly likely to be someone you instantly hit it off with.

If you’d like to have a very good chance of meeting someone you will enjoy and have deep respect for, . . .

and someone who is likely to enjoy you, and have deep respect for you . . .

Then I’d say, go for it. Give it a shot. See what happens.

And you don’t have to choose one method over the other — you can have it both ways.

At least 
fill out their initial questionaire

and see how your initial matches come out.

[Hint:  Don't select a 250 mile radius at first.  Select something like 25.  I think they tend to give you women toward the outskirts of your area for the free listings.  So if you want to have a chance of possibly recognizing one of the women in the free listings -- wouldn't that be nice -- you should try to find them close to home]

You never know what you’ll find.

Best wishes.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. It’s really a matter of odds. When it comes to finding “true love”, being “good with women” can actually be a hinderance. You can get so many incompatible women attracted to you, it’s tough to know when you’ve found a keeper.

Here’s the link again:

Chemistry

Note, if you sign up and get your free listings, please come back here and post your impressions of the women you get matched up with. You get 10 free listings. Let us know how many interest you.

It would be a great encouragement to everyone who reads this. Thanks in advance. T.P.