Just want to clarify some things that came up in replies to my first Tiger Woods Post:

http://alphamaleplanner.com/blog/2010/02/tiger-woodss-4-biggest-mistakes/

I have three points I want to empahasize:

1.  I am not advocating that we make promises to women and then break them.  I am saying we need to be very careful to promise only what we can deliver on. Most young adults don’t have a clue what they’re doing when they stand there before the preacher, hormones flooding everywhere, and promise to be faithful for the rest of their lives.

Because of this, . . .

2.  We, as a society, need to re-think the kinds of promises we allow young people to make to each other.  Allowing people to promise lifelong monogamy when under the influence of peer pressure and hormones seems completely irresponsible for society to allow. 

Think about it the next time you’re at a wedding, looking at the over-confident bride and groom who think the statistics won’t apply to them.  Most older adults know better, and I think it’s shame that we let young people do this to each other.

If you think it’s a good thing to allow those kinds of promises, please make your defense below by leaving a comment.  If you want to use Bible verses, fine, however, because I’m directly calling into question the Biblical morality on this issue, I’m really looking for good reasons outside of Bible verses.

We can surely come up with better alternatives to those kinds of promises. Marriages that last 3 years and then must be renewed to continue?  There’s an idea. That would solve some of the problem.  Open marriages?  Might work for some. More structure to the contract, so that if one feels trapped one can get out?  I don’t know.  What I do know is that Marriage is the last remaining slavery contract allowed in the western world.

3.  What do you do if you already made a “lifelong monogamy” promise, and now you feel helplessly trapped?  That’s a hard one.  It’s easy to say Tiger should not have married in the first place.  It’s easy to say that he should have only made promises that he could keep.  But he was a young idealistic foolish kid (like all of us were at one point), and he did the deed.  What now?

I don’t know.  I think you should always be able to re-negotiate at some point — and without the full weight of social judgment falling down on you for it.  Tiger should have tried renegotiating before cheating.  I will agree with that. 

But I won’t agree with those who say: “it’s just “too bad, you might have been young, foolish, under the influence of hormones, and under the influence of peer pressure, but, too bad, you have to be miserable the rest of your life, because a promise is a promise.”

Your thoughts?

Tyler

 “Stop Feeling Shame,

And Get In The Game!”

Does any of this sound familiar?

You see a girl you want to talk to, and you can’t talk, so you rationalize that she really wasn’t your type.

You’re home alone on a Friday night wishing you had a woman to cuddle up with.

Or, you and your friends are hanging out playing world of warcraft, or working on your cars, or watching a game, or playing foosball, because none of you have any girls.

Or you go to a party and just hang out in a safe corner watching girls pass by while other guys hook up with them.

Girls just don’t seem to like you very much. Or they like you in a he’s-such-a-nice-guy-friend kind of way. They don’t see you as a sexual being who could rock their world if they’d let you.

And you think, . . . there’s something wrong with you.

Deep down, you feel some SHAME, that you’re not the kind of man that women find attractive.

Shame, shame, shame, . . .

Maybe you should just crawl away to a safe corner of the planet and slither around the rest of your days with your tail between your legs.

Or, maybe . . .

Here’s the problem. It’s not that you’re a bad person. It’s not that you’re an inferior man. In fact, my guess is that you’re probably more educated than most — or at least smarter than most men.

And that’s the problem. While you were studying the world, and physics, and math, and philosophy, and theology, and biology, and computer programming, and cars, and mastering video games, . . .

. . . other guys were learning how to attract women.

You spent tens of thousands of dollars on college, thousands of dollars on computer systems and gaming systems, and thousands of hours learning these things.

Other guys spent thousands of dollars on their lifestyle, or on dating advice, and spent hundreds or thousands of hours thinking about how to make themselves more attractive to women — and PRACTICING.

You were led to believe that romance was just supposed to happen naturally. So you focused on other things.

The other guys didn’t get that memo, and spent time learning how to attract women.

So, what’s the real cause of your current sorry status among women?

It’s not that you’re an inferior man.

It’s simply . . .

Does a 6 year old kid feel shame for not knowing his multiplication table?

Do you feel shame when you get a new video game and can’t clear the first level on your first try?

Do you feel shame when you’re learning a new language and you can’t speak it very well after the first week?

No, you don’t feel shame.

What you do is,

Keep Learning,

and Keep Practicing.

That’s the key. Keep learning. Learn the theory of attraction. Learn techniques, and practice them. Be willing to make mistakes, and keep at it. You will get better.

In fact, . . .

. . . you’ll get good.

So set aside your shame.

With that said, there are two circumstances that should lead to shame:

1. You don’t take the first step and start learning how to attract women.

2. You don’t practice what you’re learning.

If you don’t do those things you should feel shame. You really aren’t worthy of having a woman if you aren’t willing to learn and practice.

But that’s not you. You’ve already shown that you’re willing to learn. You’ve taken the first steps already.

And now, . . .

I’m going to suggest a next step

for your education in women.

You really need to purchase a good general guide on attraction theory and techniques.Then you need to practice.

Then you need to find materials that fill in your gaps.

And then you need to practice some more.

If you spend 1/10 the money, and 1/10 the time you’ve spent on learning other things — often less important things — on learning how to attract women, you’ll get good. Very good.

Here’s my recommendation for a good general guide:

Guy Gets Girl. It’s a guide written by a woman for men. It’s a very good overview with some great specific techniques. If you read that book over the next two days, and practice over the next week, you’ll already see improvement. And you’ll start to see the point of learning and practicing.

Here’s the link:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/ggg/ggg.php

And keep reading the emails I send you. I’ll help guide you as you learn.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S. Please feel free to leave a respectful comment to this post.

And here’s the link to Guy Gets Girl again:

 http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/ggg/ggg.php

If you can’t “feel” her while

she’s talking, she’s probably

hoping you’ll go away soon.

I ran across some videos about a month ago.

Spent all day watching them.

Watched a second set of videos last Saturday.

Couldn’t turn away.

I’ve never seen anything like these videos before:

I’ve been helping men develop their toolkits for a couple years now.

I wrote a book that teaches men how to flirt with frame-shifting banter.

I’m proud of that book.

I created a membership site that allows men to plan their interactions with all the women in their lives, so they can make progress with many women simultaneously.

I’m very proud of the site.

And I have plans for a book on telling “short” stories, or “anecdotes”. There’s really nothing out there for that. There are books on writing novels, but nothing for the short 1-minute or 2-minute story.

I think I’ll be proud of that book, too.

I’ve helped men learn new skills and have more success than ever before.

And I’m very, very proud of that.

But there’s been something missing from my teachings.

And it became painfully clear as I watched those videos.

Most men I’ve worked with (friends and friends of friends mostly) have dramatically improved their abilities, but there’s a sizable minority who have a longer learning curve than the rest.

They do very well while I’m working with them, and then they freeze and basically “geek out” when the time comes..

While watching the videos this weekend, I learned what the problem was.

And it’s not just a problem for those who “geeked out”.

It’s something every man needs to continually work on.

They were missing many “inner game” elements. Here are a few:

1. How to be present in your body
2. How to “own the room” (and feel where everyone in the room is at in their lives — very powerful when you try it)
3. How to accept the world as it is (including any negative reactions)
4. How to know your purpose, and where you’re going in life.
5. How to need nothing from a woman (while still appreciating and enjoying her)

I watched those videos a month ago and was *blown away*. So much so that I bought the second set. Again, when I watched the second set this weekend, I was so blown away that I ordered the third set.

I haven’t watched those yet, but I’m sure they’ll blow me away again.

I could try to explain these things to you, but there’s really no need. These guys are still offering a complete DVD program basically for free (just $1 — and, I believe you get a free month of their membership audios as well. They’re giving away a lot to try to hook you into buying their other programs. It worked on me LOL).

All you do is sign up to be on their email list, and you get to a page with a long explanation about the “free” videos, and you’ll have a chance to get them for $1.

Now these videos are NOT the ones I originally got for “almost free”. They stopped offering those, and now charge $197 for them.

I’ve been told that the videos they’re offering now cover some of the same ground, but in a little more of an “overview” fashion. I haven’t watched the new ones yet.

But I made sure to order them before they start charging for these as well.

The videos are put out by a program called “The Authentic Man Program”.

(A little irony here is that their ititials ‘AMP’ are the same as ‘AlphaMalePlanner’ — but there’s no connection)

And the neat thing about these videos is that you get to watch men get feedback from men (some are verifiable pickup wizards) AND WOMEN (some have Ph.Ds in Psychology) who are experts at determining what vibe you give off as a result of where your “inner game” is.

So that’s my tip for this post.

Pick up the first set of videos and prepare to be blown away.

Here’s the link:

http://www.alphamaleplanner.com/amp2/amp.php

Again, you have to sign up for a free report, and then they take you to the page where they offer the “free” videos.

Take care.

Sincerely,

T.P.

P.S.

Here’s the link again: