At first I thought it was kind of cute. You know what I’m talking about, right?

As I eavesdropped on the conversation, though, I very quickly understood that this guy knew what he was doing. The girl did, too, but then the girl always knows what’s going on. It’s guys who are usually clueless.

When they walked out, about 30 minutes later. I was almost 100% sure they were heading for one of their places to have some fun together.

Now, 3 or so years ago, I would have had no clue what was going on. In fact, I would have guessed that the guy was “blowing it”. He wasn’t demonstrating enough value. He wasn’t generating enough attraction. He wasn’t doing it the way Mystery or Style or any of the guru pickup artists would tell him to do it.

But three years later, this last Monday, because of the writing and thinking and gaming I’ve done over the last 3 years, I could clearly see what was going on.

This guy was a complete natural, and what would seem like ordinary boring conversation was actually extremely sexual and arousing to the girl.

I could see it, in part, because that’s how I’ve been doing it the last 6 months or so, too.

Basically, through ordinary boring conversation, this guy steadily negotiated what kind of relationship they would have together, and worked out all the logistics.

And they NEVER actually said any of these things directly.

They told stories about “friends”.

They talked about movies they liked that had different scenarios in them, and they felt out how each other felt about various scenarios.

Why does this work?

Basically this guy had a clear idea about his outcome, and he steadily got all the logistics worked out as they “chit chatted”. He reinforced things that got them closer to his outcome, and steered away from things that might take them further away. He communicated very clearly to her, in a way she completely vibed with, and in a way that most guys would have never understood.

He knew what he wanted, learned what she was game for, and got it worked out quickly.

This guy’s natural method was deadly effective. And it was completely respectful of the woman he was with.

So, how do you do seduce women discreetly like this yourself?

There are some techniques involved.

And there is some theory involved.

But not much.

And you don’t need to start with the techniques. In fact, you should NOT start with the techniques.

You must start with your sense of purpose. You must exercise your “purpose muscles”. You must become more alpha. You must become the kind of guy who knows exactly what he wants and is used to making it happen.

Then, and only then, you can work on communicating what you want to the girl in a subtle, discreet and speedy way.

Then, and only then, you can find the stories and examples to talk about with her that move the two of you toward your goal. In fact most of these can just flow from ordinary conversation. You don’t need to have anything “rehearsed” — though it can help to have a story or two to fall back on.

Now,

Speaking of “discreet and confidential” . . .

And speaking of alpha male . . .

My friend John Alexander has spent years studying what the true meaning of “alpha male” is. It’s not what you think. It has a lot more to do with your sense of purpose than with how you dress or talk.

If you’re serious about attracting women, you will have much more success if you figure out how to be an alpha male than if you learn all the flirting and attraction routines in the world.

And John’s guide comes to you “discreet and confidential”.

Check it out. Buy it. Do the exercises. Become Alpha.

Peace.

Tyler.

Tyler here again.

I’ve got a couple more flirting lines to share with you.

Remember, your flirting lines should fit together with three things: 1) the situation you’re in, 2) the girl you’re with, and 3) your own personality.

The best way to get a feel for effective flirting is 1) understand the principles behind good flirting, and 2) to see lots of good examples.

Well, I’ve got two more examples for you, and, just like last time, for each line, I’ll tell you the situation, and the response. Then I’ll discuss why it works.

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SITUATION 1
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The situation for the first line is this: You’re with a girl, and she says she has a boyfriend.

Your response: Well, he called in sick. I’m his replacement. (credit brass)

Discussion: most guys give up when a girl says she has a boyfriend. While I’m not a fan of messing up a good relationship, I’m also not a fan of giving up the first time a girl “claims” to have a boyfriend. There are many possibilities. 1) She doesn’t have a boyfriend, but doesn’t want to look desperate, so she claims to have a boyfriend. 2) She’s tired of her boyfriend, and wants to have fun with you, and she just wants to get her situation out in the open. Most girls don’t stay with the same boyfriend forever, and they almost never give up an old boyfriend without securing a new one first. That’s just the way it works, so maybe she’s ready to switch. 3) She does have a boyfriend, and she’s madly in love with him. If this is the case, I would advise you to move on. There are so many less complicated and less dangerous situations out there to pursue. There’s no need to go there simply to stroke your ego. Plus, your chances will be much less anyway.

Since you don’t know what her real situation is, you might as well stay in there with something funny and warmly dominant, and see how she reacts. If she starts flirting back, you’ll know the boyfriend either isn’t real, or doesn’t have her heart. And, if she’s committed and happy, she’ll let you know.

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Situation 2
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Situation: You’re talking with a girl and she says something that can be interpreted as bragging.

Reply: I think you just made that up to impress me. But don’t worry. I won’t tell anyone. (credit da man)

Discussion: This line might not strike you as anything special, but, I’m here to tell you that if you really understand the structure of good flirting, this line is doing all the right things.

First, the frame is great. You’re interpreting her bragging as an attempt to impress you. When someone brags, they’re making a claim to high status. That can be dangerous for you if you validate her for it too much. But, with this line, you’re interpreting her high status signal as her attempt to measure up to your assumed high status — she’s trying to impress you.

Second, the line: “But don’t worry. I wont’ tell anyone” signals that you aren’t judgmental and can keep secrets. That can put a girl greatly at ease. If she has any naughty thoughts about what she wants to do with you later, it basically gives her permission and assures her that you won’t tell anyone. I go into more detail about this in my new book Avatar Seduction, but I think you can see the point here.

Third, it’s kind of humorous, and invites role playing. Always a good thing.
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Those are just two more of the hundreds of lines in the Flirting Tool. Again, the Flirting Tool is available for FREE for everyone who gets Flirting Deconstructed (which explains the principles behind good flirting).

Take care,

T.P.

P.S., I’d love your thoughts on these two flirt lines. I think they’re very good, but I want to know what you think. And if you think you can tweak them to make them even better, show us your stuff. Post your comments below.

Tyler here.

From time to time I want to share some fantastic flirting lines with you.

Your flirting lines always have to match three things: 1) the situation you’re in, 2) the girl you’re with, and 3) your own personality.

The best way to get a feel for effective flirting is 1) understand the principles behind good flirting, and 2) to see lots of good examples.

Some of the examples I present will be lines I came up with, and some will come from other guys — mostly from the trigger banter generator tool — more on that later.

For each line, I’ll tell you the situation, and the response. Then I’ll discuss why it works.

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SITUATION 1
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The situation for the first line is this: You’re with a girl, and she asks if you’re a “player”.

Your response: I’m not a player, baby. I’m the coach.

Discussion: most guys will freeze up at this point. The truth is, when you’re with an attractive woman, you ARE trying to game her. And you know it. So when she asks if you’re a player, it can be easy to freeze up, as if you’ve been caught.

This reply shows that you’re comfortable and very knowledgeable about women. It’s also funny, which is a plus.

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Situation 2
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Situation: You’re sitting near an attractive woman at a coffee shop, and she gets up to go to the bathroom. And before she leaves, she asks you to watch her stuff for her.

Reply: Watch your stuff? Why? Does it do tricks?

Discussion: This is just a playful way to start a little banter. If she’s game, she’ll play along and make something up. More importantly, it subcommunicates the idea that you’re not her subordinate. When she asks you to watch her stuff, she’s asking you to do something for her. Your reply tells her that in order for you to want to watch her stuff, she has to give you a reason that benefits YOU. It shifts the power balance back in your favor in a subtle and playful way.
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Those are just two of the hundreds of lines in the Flirting Tool. The Flirting Tool is available for FREE for everyone who gets Flirting Deconstructed (which explains the principles behind good flirting).

Take care,

T.P.

P.S., I’d love your thoughts on these two flirt lines. I think they’re hilarious (and effective), but I want to know what you think. And if you think you can tweak them to make them even better, show us your stuff. Post your comments below.